Detaching Yourself From ‘Female Autism’: Working towards the bigger picture

Enter into the online autism community and you will come across a lot of posts about how bad it is to discuss ‘female autism’. Hearing this as a newly discovered autistic female in the community, you may feel disappointed to find out that ‘female autism’ is not something those at the front of the movement are not in support of.

Attaching yourself to ‘female autism’ provided you with an understanding of why you were not diagnosed or recognised at a much younger age. This attachment is completely understandable for a personal standpoint. I do however hope this post will start a gentle detachment from autistic gender stereotypes, without destroying the idea of your new-found identity. 

I will say though that if you wish to continue identifying yourself with ‘female autism’ you should be able to do without feeling bullied. But I hope you can understand the big picture objectives, and the reasons for moving away from gender stereotypes, to support autism awareness and the neurodiversity movement.

Although I call my self-advocacy platform “Women On The Spectrum”, please do not misunderstand me, and think that I see autistic women differently from autistic men. I do not discuss female autism versus male autism, but I may touch on the topic when talking about an initial discovery of autism.

I see autistic women as different from one another. And I see autistic men as different from one another.

Most peoples understanding of autism is based on the stereotypical male type. In the process of revolutionising the perception of autism, we have been pushed to the extreme. And, a lot of talk about ‘female autism’ emerged. It was part of the process in breaking away from the belief that autism is the ‘extreme form of the male brain’.

The research into ‘female autism’ has positively instigated the understanding of how autism can appear differently to the stereotype. However, the problem with linking traits to gender is that some males may relate to the ‘female autistic traits’ but are not identifying because of the gender difference. 

Now, we are trying to move away from autistic gender stereotypes and instead move towards understanding the full spectrum of autism. There is not one male stereotype, and there is not one female stereotype. Just like neurotypicals, we are also very different from one another. 

Should we self-diagnose Autism & Neurodivergence?

Autism and other Neurodiversities are not mental disorders. They are different neurotypes. It, therefore, cannot be self-destructive to discover and identify as autistic or neurodivergent. Since many of us have lived years of our lives assumed to be “neurotypical”.

I do not believe that you need an official diagnosis to identify as autistic or neurodivergent, enabling you to understand yourself better and advocate your needs. However, the potential danger with ‘self-diagnosis’ is that you may continue to suffer from undiagnosed mental health disorders. 

Therefore, if someone thinks they are Autistic or Neurodivergent and suffers from lots of mental health problems, it would be important to see a psychiatrist to identify and address these mental health issues.

Only those of us on the spectrum can ask ourselves: Is it really possible that someone would discover autism, carry out extensive research into autism, identify themselves as autistic, and not be autistic? In my opinion, it’s unlikely. So surely there should be no problem in adopting Autism or Neurodivergence as your identity, should you wish to.

The need for an autism diagnosis, discovery or identification, is not something that every autistic person can relate to. 

  • Those with undiscovered neurodivergence, living in environments that accept them may not seek to discover their neurodivergence.
  • Those who have discovered and identified with autism and neurodivergence may not feel the need for an official diagnosis. 
  • And, those who have struggled with mental health issues, or their identity may feel they need an official diagnosis. 

Regardless of which one you are, those who are allowed to be themselves without question will be able to flourish and benefit the greater good of society.

My Autism diagnosis empowered me to be myself

My Childhood 

My earliest memory is one of me at the age of 4 trying to suffocate myself under my duvet cover. I must have just had another autistic meltdown and left alone uncomforted. I did not want to be in this world since the very beginning, but I never quite understood why.

I grew up with ‘Britishly’ loving parents, in a safe household, and without abuse. Yet, my earliest childhood memories are of me feeling depressed, alone and neglected. I remember having autistic meltdowns alone in my room and feeling desperate for someone to come and comfort me. I did not know how to express my need for comfort at this time and was unprepared to fight my mum’s attention away from my four other siblings.

I was incredibly shy and scared of everyone, always trying to go unnoticed. My biggest wish would have been to be invisible. I would cover my mouth with my hand whilst speaking, in the hope that my voice would go unheard. I was always saying the wrong thing and became scared to talk. Everyone commented on this strange hand covering behaviour, and I was forever being shouted at by adults because of it. Which only made me want to disappear a whole lot more. 

Complaining of stomach pain every day, my mum regularly took me to the doctor to find out what was wrong with me. I saw an allergy specialist who told me that I was allergic to everything. However, there was no correlation between these foods and my stomach pain. Only now do I realise those years of stomach pains, were caused by anxiety.

Childhood OCD

At the age of 9, I started to show OCD behaviour that caused me a lot of distress. I hid rubbish under my bed because I refused to throw anything in the bin, and started to believe that the garden toys had feelings. Each night I had to put ALL the garden toys away in the garden cupboard so that they could be ‘safe’ for the night.

Sometimes, I would forget and only remember after glancing out my bedroom window into the garden. As it got dark, my mum would tell me it was too late for me to put them away, and she would not come outside with me. I would start crying and get incredibly upset about it. My mum was confused and frustrated about this obsession and would often get angry at me about it. I remember evenings where I would be running around the garden in the dark, scared and crying, picking up all the toys to make sure they were all safe in the cupboard.

My OCD symptoms later changed, and I started being more repetitive with my actions. I had to do everything four times. Four was my number, probably because it was my lucky number. It’s an even number, and in my head, it’s visually symmetrical. Nearly every action was repeated four times. My gymnastic moves done in four’s, and everything I touched had to be touched four times. Each time before I slept, I had to go to the bathroom four times, turn on and off the TV four times, open and shut drawers four times, get in and out of bed four times, the list goes on forever. It would take me hours and hours to get to sleep.

I probably saw two therapists about these issues, and no one ever mentioned anything about anxiety, autism or OCD. I just got an audiotape describing my favourite place at the time (a ski lift bubble), to help me fall asleep at night. But it didn’t work. Eventually, I started consistently telling myself that nothing bad would happen if I didn’t repeat these actions. After a couple of months, the repetitive actions reduced, and OCD stopped taking over my whole life. However, to this day, these OCD behaviours still affect me during periods of high stress or anxiety.

Adult Life

After leaving school, I moved to London and lived alone in my parent’s flat. At this time, I realised I was on a path of self-discovery and started reading lots of self-help books. I felt strange and knew I wasn’t living in this world the same way everyone else was. 

During my years at university, I became anorexic for a year, developed agoraphobia, and body dysmorphia. Two years into my first job, I developed a drug and alcohol addiction. I later became bulimic, unemployed, on the verge of homelessness, and a victim of sexual assaults.

I always found it strange how I developed so many mental health issues, as I hadn’t heard of anyone else experiencing the same. Each mental health issue lasted months to around a year. I did not receive any medical or psychological support for any of these issues, each time I managed to solve these issues by myself.

I tried to get support from doctors or people around me many times, but I struggled to explain my problems, and no one took my issues seriously. Attempting to help myself, I had booked appointments with doctors, counsellors and alternative health therapists. I was diagnosed with, “something happening to me before I was born”, “not loving myself enough” and “a lack of motherly love”.

At the age of 26, I started to finally get my life back on track with the guidance of a supportive close friend. He encouraged me to sign up to a coding course, and I become excited about my future again. It was an expensive and intensive course that I didn’t want to mess up, and because of my previous mental health issues, I knew it was going to be a challenge. I was tired of ruining my life and the opportunities in front of me. I thought if I don’t sort this out now I’ll have no future. So, I decided it was time to use all my savings and see a private psychiatrist who would finally take my mental health seriously, and make sure I could get through the next few months. 

Starting the diagnosis process

My first appointment was with a general psychiatrist on Harley Street (Although, I later realised he was also an ADHD specialist). I went to him thinking that I had bipolar disorder and would not have been surprised if he had confirmed this. After our one hour appointment, he told me it looks like I may be autistic and have ADHD.

I had high hopes for this appointment but left crying and feeling very upset with his suspected diagnosis. I had no idea what autism or ADHD was, and had not come across it during my online self-diagnosis research. I thought that it could not be possible and that yet another doctor was not taking my mental health seriously.

I started researching about it in more depth and slowly began thinking that he may be onto something. I booked another appointment with him for an ADHD assessment. However, I had a bad experience with him at that appointment and decided to see another psychiatrist. 

I was recommended a mental health clinic specialising in ADHD & Autism Spectrum Disorder in adults. I booked my initial appointment, done through skype, and felt immediately comfortable with the psychiatrist. She was very friendly and reassuring. She booked me in for an ADHD appointment and requested for my parents to fill out a questionnaire. I was diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed medication. 

I had several review appointments with her over a few months, as she wanted to see what issues resolved before going through with the autism assessment. The autism assessment is a more lengthy and expensive process, so it’s usually better to identify other neurodivergence beforehand.

The Autism Assessment

The autism assessment involved three different sessions:

  1. Overview Assessment – The first involved a 3-hour assessment over two days, where I explained all my issues from childhood up until now. 
  2. Autism Diagnostic Interview – The second was between my parents and another psychiatrist. This assessment focused on how you were as a child before the age of twelve. Since, autism is something you are born with, rather than something that developed later in life. Therefore, they are looking for characteristics of autism from a young age. I was worried about this assessment because I got the impression my parents did not want me to be diagnosed with autism. I also did not recognise the general autism characteristics in myself as a child.
  3. Autism Diagnostic Observation – The third was an observational assessment with the second psychiatrist. At this session, you do not discuss your issues. Instead, they are observing your communication, social interaction and imaginative use of materials.

At the final appointment, they provided the report conclusion drawn up by both psychiatrists, and I was diagnosed with Autism spectrum disorder. I got my autism diagnosis eight months after initially suspecting to be autistic and neurodivergent. By this point, I had done extensive research and could fully relate to autistic and ADHD characteristics. I felt happy to have the diagnosis and to have finally figured out why I struggled with so much in my life.

Post Diagnosis

Although I had done extensive research into autism, I still spent the first year being confused about my issues, and how being autistic and neurodivergent affects my life. Unfortunately, I could not carry on with therapy at the clinic where I got diagnosed because it was too expensive. So since then, I have spent a lot of time researching, and it is only now, over one year later that I am starting to understand myself. Fully understanding myself and my place in a neurotypical world will always be a continuous learning curve that will probably never end.

My Identity

My autism and ADHD diagnosis has given me permission to be myself. It now feels acceptable for me to be who I want to be. And, that is ‘different’ from those around me. I stopped masking and trying to fit into the mould that had been created for me by others. I have become more interested in coding, music, advocacy, and causes. I now aspire to be my most unique self, rather than trying to be the same as my Neurotypical friends.

With a long history of detrimental mental health problems, I felt I needed an official diagnosis of some sort. I was desperate and determined to find out what was wrong with me. Once diagnosed, this long journey made me want to adopt autism as my identity. I strongly identify with being autistic and Neurodivergent because, for ten years, I was desperately trying to identify with something that made sense to me.

I have found that those diagnosed earlier in life (as children) may identify less with a diagnosis during adulthood than those diagnosed or discovered as adults. Being diagnosed at a younger age provides us with more opportunity to receive support and protection from situations that may be damaging to our mental health. Being an undiagnosed adult presents different issues to those in childhood, and can cause us to become unusually vulnerable to difficulties. Adulthood, expects us to suddenly take care of ourselves by ourselves, in a world that we cannot naturally navigate, and so we can end up getting in a lot of trouble. We no longer have our family or educational structure to guide and support us. And, we become incapable of supporting ourselves in a society that does not accept us into their work and social environments.

Going through adulthood as an undiagnosed autistic often causes the accumulation and development of complex PTSD. You hear a lot of lately diagnosed adults say, “I wonder what my life would have been if I had been diagnosed earlier on in life?”. Whilst saying this, they often imagine a life without all the accumulated trauma developed over the years.

My Optimal Daily Routine & Executive Functioning

This is not a blog post about formulating the perfect routine for success, or showing you “a day in the life of…”. This is a blog post about creating a daily routine that is personalised, meaningful and attainable.

Going back one year ago, I had absolutely no good habits what so ever. Seriously, zero daily routines. I felt completely out of control. I had no regular wake-up time, bedtime, meal times, nothing! The only daily habits that stuck were self-destructive ones. 

I felt unconfident about myself and my future. I had no predictability or consistency in my life. In an attempt to prove to myself that I could regain control, I decided to do a 3 day fast. Although this is not something I necessary recommend, instead, I recommend developing a plan of healthy and realistic habits.

Developing healthy routines can be really beneficial for autistic people. Particularly during periods of autistic burnout where your executive functioning is greatly affected. An autistic burnout can throw off healthy habits, reduce your ability to make decisions, lower motivation, and make it difficult to carry out daily activities. One of my tools for coming out of an autistic burnout is to work towards my already established daily routine.

I have posted snippets of my daily routines on social media. However, have not emphasised enough how meaningful each part of my daily routine is to my mental health and well being. 

I hope this in-depth explanation can help you create your own ideal daily routine. One that is meaningful and can be used as a tool to get you through the most difficult periods of low executive functioning.

Morning Lemon Water Ritual 

We all need to drink water to survive, so my first and most important habit is an essential human need that I turned into a daily ritual. The first thing I do each morning is to purposely and meaningfully show how much I care about myself by drinking a glass of water with lemon juice. 

The only reason I add lemon juice is to transform the need for hydration into a more enticing practice of self-care. Hydrating my body before it yearns for it each day sets my internal voice to one that is self-loving. Encouraging me to be proactive rather than reactive to the needs of my mind and body.

One low effort ritual means that even on my lowest days when everything seems impossible. I am still able to practice, one single part of my routine. This easily attainable habit has stopped me from reaching rock bottom many times and been a stepping stone in recovering from periods of depression, low executive functioning and autistic burnout.

Morning Meditation 

Immediately after hydrating myself with lemon water, I meditate for 20 minutes. The meditation technique I practice is called transcendental meditation. This technique teaches you to meditate twice a day for 20 minutes. Meditation helps me:

  • Regulate my mood
  • De-excite my mind and body
  • Plan and prioritise the day
  • Clarifies problems and indecisiveness
  • Improves social interaction and behaviour
  • Reduces impulsivity, stress and anxiety


Dancing to my favourite energizing music helps lift my energy levels and puts me in a good mood. Dancing every day has positively impacted my social interactions. It makes me feel free and comfortable within my body, as well as less stiff and self-conscious in my appearance and communication with others. I become more socially uplifting and attractive, which helps me reduce social barriers.

Morning Fresh Air Walk

Leaving the house and going outside every day is extremely important for my mental health. Walking in the morning makes me feel grounded, energised and focused for the day.

Even though I may not converse with other humans outside, seeing other people reduces a sense of isolation, creates a sense of belonging within the environment, and makes me feel less dissociated. I prefer going out in the morning, as seeing people out together in the evening makes me feel more lonely. Spending days alone at home without leaving the house causes an overwhelming sense of social anxiety when I do finally go out again. 

Additionally, listening to a podcast, audiobook or calling a friend whilst out walking can reduce agoraphobic anxiety. However, a phone conversation is not my preference since it may not be positive and uplifting. Listening to a podcast or audiobook has more certainty in being beneficial as it does not drain my energy or lead to negative thoughts for the rest of the day.

Eat Breakfast

Eating breakfast around the same time every day helps with my circadian rhythm and reduces uncertainty about future meals. Missing breakfast can create a confusing sense of structure for the day. Eating the same breakfast each day reduces the need to make decisions, which can be difficult when your executive functioning is not working so well.

When taking particular medications, it is also necessary to make sure you are eating well. In particular, ADHD medication that may suppress your appetite throughout the day, causing you to forget to eat, and later make you feel on edge, jittery, faint and anxious.

Afternoon Meditation

I always struggle to fit in the afternoon meditation, though the second meditation of the day does help significantly. Missing an afternoon meditation means there is more to work through during the following morning meditation. 


Like breakfast, dinner can also play a vital role in our circadian rhythm – helping us to regulate a consistent bedtime. Dinner time is also my favourite time of the day. It marks the end of the day when I finally allow myself to relax and wind down. I usually create a meal schedule or eat the same meal each day to help reduce indecisiveness and the need to make decisions. Eating the same meal everyday for dinner may not be for everyone. So, rotating the meal every few days or weeks has really helped me with issues around decision making and meals.

Evening Clean Up

Cleaning up the kitchen, work area and dirty washing before bed allows me to wake up without being surrounded by chaos. Starting the following day with a clear head and without obstacles in my environment makes me more focused on the day’s tasks. Cleaning up regularly each day reduces negative thoughts that may come with the overwhelmingness of an environment that is out of control.

Early Bedtime

Every day at 9 pm, Alexa says “Tiffany, let’s get ready for bed and wind down”. I’m reminded to get ready for bed, brush my teeth and finish cleaning up for the evening so that I can get to bed for 10pm. 

Following an evening routine sets me up for getting to bed early and having a good nights sleep. Without these steps in place, I get confused about the actions I need to go through before sleeping and likely to stay up too late. 

By default, I would be considered as a night owl. However, I found being an early bird greatly benefits my mental well being. The evening hours are when I feel most depressed and lonely. So, sleeping during these hours reduces negative thoughts. Waking up early also makes me feel more confident, less anxious and puts me in a better mood for the day. 

I also found having an inconsistent bedtime leads to an increased time it takes me to fall asleep. Whereas, consistently getting to bed around the same time each night, soon enabled me to fall asleep in as little as 10 minutes. And, I have suffered from severe insomnia my whole life.

Positively Limiting Bad habits

Part of my optimal daily routine involves limiting certain activities together with adding healthy habits. I looked at the patterns of when during the day I usually felt most anxious, depressed or lonely, and wrote down what might be directly initiating these feelings.

I noticed that walking in the evening made me feel more lonely. I felt more depressed and dissociated when listening to music after 6pm (unless it was jazz or classical music). I became anxious and hyperactive after evening phone conversations with friends. Scrolling through social media in the morning slowed me down and made me less focused during the day.

These are essentially my bad habits. Addressing these habits will reduce negative thought cycles accumulating each day. Examples of my positive limitations are:

  • Taking a walk in the morning instead of in the evening, to reduce loneliness.
  • Limiting social interactions and phone calls in the evening, to reduce overexcite of my mind and body, making it difficult to fall asleep.
  • Stop listening to music after 6pm to stop a pattern of regular negative deep thinking.
  • Allow yourself to look at social media after 3pm, but not before so you keep focused on the day’s tasks.
  • Restrict the use of technology in bed and late in the evening. I make sure my laptop stays in my work area and does not come to bed at night with me.
  • If you smoke, limit the number of cigarettes per day to a maximum of 5; and stop smoking after a set time of the day.
  • Drinking a maximum of 2 coffees a day and before 3 pm if you know from experience that it causes anxiety or affects sleep quality.

Limit bad habits, without making them entirely forbidden or to the point of being unattainable. Limitations should benefit you, make you feel better, and not become a form of obsessive self-control, discipline, or self-hatred. Limiting rather than forbidding reduces thoughts of low self-esteem, and leaves room for you to celebrate your own achievements.

Establishing a specific daily routine whilst you feel more capable allows you to try and test a daily routine that works best for you. Once you know your daily routine works well for you and makes you feel great, you can start relying on it during more difficult periods. It gives me reassurance and hopes that I am capable of getting back on track and will soon have good days where I feel myself again, one step at a time.

It’s often thought that autistics’ characteristic of needing routine is a negative one. However, this characteristic can be used as a positive tool to help us when our executive functioning is not working well.

Some days I can easily follow my routine without any effort, and other days I find it impossible. Regardless of how I feel each day, my routine always gives me a guide to work towards. I try to follow my optimal routine as much as possible without pressure and self-loathing. On my lowest days, the only part of my routine I manage is my lemon water ritual, and I celebrate myself for this.

Neurodiversity: A Passionate Interpretation

Neurodiversity is the variation and differences in the human brain regarding sociability, learning, attention, mood and other mental functions. All neurotypes are part of the variation of the human population, and should be considered as ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’, as well as ‘different’ not ‘disabled’.

Types of Neurodivergence include:

  • Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD or dyspraxia)
  • Dyslexia
  • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
  • Dyscalculia
  • Autistic Spectrum (ASD)
  • Tourette Syndrome (TS), and others

Neurodivergent people are seen as having ‘disorders’ and needing to be ‘fixed’ as a result of not being able to integrate and engage in society the same way neurotypical people do. 

With environmental factors that accommodate ‘typical’ neurological needs, society is constructed towards neurotypical people, it celebrates their qualities and overlooks their deficiencies. It does not question their perception or neurocognitive functioning but allows them to live perceived ‘normal’ lives.

Neurodivergent people often grow up with their natural talents being seen as defects. They receive little support in areas they could flourish, and their growth is hindered by the opportunity cost of forcing themselves to be ‘normal’. Although many are able to do this for a short period of their life, it is unsustainable and comes with huge social, financial, physical and mental health costs. Unable to integrate into society and live in an environment that does not accommodate them, neurodivergent people are forced to become dependant on others and are seen as a burden to society.

Through creating social environments that accommodate neurodivergent needs, we allow neurodivergent people to be accepted, connect with others, discover and develop their qualities, and contribute to the benefit of society. After all, the most innovative human developments in history have come from a neurodivergent mind. 

Mirroring Flirtatious Behaviour

We may find ourselves continuously getting into uncomfortable situations where others think it is okay to flirt inappropriately or make unwanted sexual advances.

I have often been so confused as to why this keeps happening when I have not given any sign of wanting to engage in that way.

Examples of this may be:

  • Being asked sexual questions or someone saying sexual things that make you feel uncomfortable. 
  • Randomly being sent inappropriate pictures.
  • Having someone make sexual advances on you when you thought the relationship was just friendly.
  • Sexual advances being made all of a sudden without having engaged in other intimate activities, such as hugging, kissing, or gentle touching.

Having these things happen to you more frequently than others around you can make you feel confused, and figuring out why can take years. We may destroy good relationships because of it or get ourselves into dangerous situations or assaults.

We know we had no attraction to the person making us uncomfortable and did not give off any flirtatious signals. So why is this happening?

We may be mirroring flirtatious behaviour:

  • With difficulty reading other people and understanding their intentions, we may not take notice of flirtatious behaviour towards us.
  • Someone who masks a lot is also likely to mimic and mirror other people’s behaviour. We can start flirting with someone not because we feel attracted to them, but because we are copying their flirtatious behaviour towards us without realising it.
  • In these scenarios, we may find ourselves flirting in a way that is unnatural to us. That is because we are not actually flirting. We are mirroring the other person, using their flirting style, to flirt back at them as a way to communicate.

As we often prefer to spend time alone, we may not have many close friends to talk to, so are unlikely to tell others about these interactions. Talking to friends about these scenarios allow us to discuss it out loud, and get advice. Without discussing inappropriate interactions with others, we may think this is normal behaviour, allowing those with bad intentions to continue mistreating us and making us feel uncomfortable.

We may also not be asserting ourselves:

  • We may not know that we are allowed to say NO and refuse sexual advances. 
  • We may not know how to say NO and assert ourselves to stop the flirtatious behaviour that is making us feel uncomfortable.
  • We may fear their reaction of saying NO, as past experiences may have told us we wrongly predict social responses. 
  • We may also worry that they will not want to be friends with us anymore if we say NO – especially if we struggle to make friends.

Being autistic can also be very lonely, and we can feel like no-one wants to be around us. With past experiences of peer rejection, we can often feel desperate for acceptance and social interaction. So when someone wants to be around us we jump at the chance to have a friend even if we do not like them, or, something does not feel right about them – They are someone who wants to be around us, so we ignore any red flags.

Without fully understanding why this keeps happening, we will continue to get into dangerous and troubling situations. By understanding how these scenarios play out, we allow ourselves to be much more assertive and more aware of our mimicking behaviours. So we can have more control over our social interactions in the way we desire, and not be lead by other peoples desires and bad intentions.

Our vision, mission, aims:

Hello! Welcome to Women on the Spectrum and our first blog post.

We are starting Women on the Spectrum to share our stories and experiences as women on the autism spectrum. There is not a lot of knowledge and research about women on the spectrum, and autism appears in many different forms and can look very different from one person to another. From our experience, hearing that someone else too has gone through the same uniquely complex situation, as a result of being on the spectrum, can be incredibly powerful and life-changing – usually described as the pieces of the puzzle finally being put together.

Our vision, mission, aims:

  • Help other women on the spectrum, understand that others are dealing with the same uniquely complex experiences, through sharing our personal stories.
  • Help people with long term complex mental health struggles to get an accurate diagnosis. Whether that be an autism and/or neurodiversity diagnosis, or another mental health diagnosis.
  • Allow those on the spectrum to better understand themselves, and educate their family, friends, and co-workers to create more fulfilling relationships.
  • Eradicate the phrase: “You don’t look autistic…”, through representing many different types and forms of autistic women on this platform, and understand that autism is how you feel on the inside.
  • Bring out the wonderful hidden qualities of those on the spectrum, through creating connections with the outside world in a reformed way.